It all started with needing an eggshell finish paint in our living room, one thing led to another and at the moment we are trying to find a way to put in new flooring we can’t really afford due to a leaking air conditioner.. We also have to figure out how to replace a wall, again with money we don’t have..
So i’ve been quiet, yes, sorry. But, i am still here :) And i will update fully on the living room reno once we are done
Welcome to the July edition of Authentic Parenting Blog Carnival: Pets and children.
This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Authentic Parenting Blog Carnival hosted by The Positive Parenting Connection and Authentic Parenting. This month our participants are sharing their thoughts and experiences with pets and children! Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.
I was 20 weeks pregnant, gaining weight miserably, preparing to become a mom of two and amazed at watching my little girl learn how to walk, she toddled around and waddled and we thought it was funny. Then one night, my husband decided we needed a cat. We spent the next 3 weekends visiting our local humane society, each time we never found one that made us fall in love. The 4th time we went, was different. We walked in, Emilee, my then 15 month old walked up to the kitty sitting out front and for the first time, she said clear as day “KITTY KITTY KITTY” she then repeated this all day long. But, she only did it to that kitty. He was gorgeous, had blue eyes, Siamese coloring and was laid back, and was only about 7 months old so we knew we could keep him for a long time. We promptly took him home after making sure Emilee didn’t scare him. We couldn’t have found a better cat.
Flash forward to present, we have 2 cats, Casper the original, and Nermal, the new guy. My advice to anyone looking to get a cat, dog, sheep, lamb horse, goat or guinea pig. Make sure your kids are involved. 4 months, 10 months, 4 years, 14 years, it doesn’t matter, Just let them play with the animal, if it will be a household pet, then you’d hate to have a dog your child was scared of.
This is Casper, and Emilee doing what they love to do. She can be angry, or scared or upset and he can walk in the room and there with a big smile is “awe kitty my kitty o kitty” and the day is better, the rain is gone, and most importantly the cat still meows (when you have a toddler, and the cat survives for more than a few weeks without clawing her to death, or her carrying it for so long that he disappears forever, it is important that the cat still meows because if not, he is most likely hiding under your dryer… true story)
And for added cuteness, the same rule applies for dogs and babies. You must see the temperament of the dog and baby when left to see each other and hang out. Because for 2 minutes, a dog can seem sweet as can be, however he can get rowdy with a tiny baby.. Exhibit A: Elijah who is 4 months old and our step-dog (he belongs to my mom) Bella.. Whoever says pit bulls are mean must look at this picture and then repeat themselves.
Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:
Pet’s Role in the Home School — If a house isn’t a home without a pet, how can you imagine homeschooling without one? Erica at ChildOrganics discusses the many benefits of home schooling with pets. .
- Toddlers and Whiskers, Co-existing as One — Mama Duck at Quacks and Waddles explains how to introduce new pets to toddlers and babies
and the Death of a Pet — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama offers suggestions on how to help children work through the loss of a pet. She includes a variety of books to support both parents and children during this tender time.
Reasons to Be a Foster Family for a Pet in Need — Christy from Adventures in Mommyhood: Mommy Outnumbered gives her top 10 reasons to consider fostering a pet until a forever home can be found.
Dogs for New Baby — Jennifer from Mother of the Pack gives advice to new parents for preparing their dog(s) for a baby
Pets and Death — Lauren at Hobo Mama has walked with her son through the untimely death of their cat, a fascinating and troubling journey.
- The Health Benefits of Having Pets — Laura from Authentic Parenting tells us exactly why having pets is beneficial to your child’s health.
My Healing Dog — Bianca at the Pierogie Mama writes about her loveable old dog, Romeo, who at one point she had to give away but a few years later he was placed back in her life when she least expected it.
Tips to Help a Child That is Afraid of Dogs – Ariadne at Positive Parenting Connection is sharing helpful tips and using play to help children overcome a fear of dogs.
Value of Pets – Caroline from Stone Age Parenting writes about how pets have brought so much more than happiness to her life and how she has learned to appreciate and respond to the needs of animals and of humans.
I’m part of the Wordless Wednesday over at Natural Parents Network click HERE to see it For some odd reason, this made me super excited, the topic this week was labor, and i was a bit happy to show you can have a natural peaceful birth in the hospital if you have too…
I swear all i do on most days is clean up what i cleaned the day before, however if i don’t, it’s a hurricane of disaster afterwards, didn’t get too many pictures for the week, but here are a few of my favorites…
First, this isn’t really a picture, but it was too adorable not to share. Grocery shopping, and going down the cat food aisle while waiting on the hubs to go grab something, emilee had an interesting conversation with some of the products..
Emilee’s hair grows like weeds in the front, so it requires constant trimming, which i do myself, the first time was tragic.. but i think i did pretty well this time! I also trimmed up the back, as the bottoms were a bit.. “Gangly” for my liking. Once she’s old enough, she can decide, until then i will keep maintaining healthy haired little ones
And this is one of my favorites, and Alan will
PROBABLY kill me for uploading it, but it was cute as they all have different expressions. Alan looks like he just finished saying “Really?” Emilee is overjoyed and Eli thinks his hands are much more interesting this all this photo taking business.
Hope you enjoyed!
So a few days ago I mentioned that Alan decided for the month of August, we could try things my way. By things i mean:
We will work on a semi-cash only system. I will leave the money for our bills in the bank; we have a total of 10 bills. I’ve divided them equally between both pay periods, and will keep that exact amount in the bank. (With a 30 dollar extra, just in case i did math wrong here or there, and so it doesn’t go negative at all) The rest of the money will be pulled out in cash. I will divide take out grocery money first, then gas, then what is left, is for the extras. If there is no cash after groceries and gas, or it is all spent and we still want something, oh well it’s gone, we paid everything, we are fed, he can get to work, and we will just be home, A LOT! We’ve tried a few things, but I know it will be hard not having that card to whip out at a moments notice for both of us. I will make sure Alan has food at home to take to work each day, so he isn’t spending extra there, unless he wants to use his extra at work for goodies. (which he can’t, which leads us into our next thing)
He has also agreed to letting me cook healthy, good food for the entire month. The only stipulation he has is that he gets 3 nights of “him” food out of the house, which i can agree too. 3 nights out of 31 isn’t bad for a first try. He (and i promise, this was him, not me) added that although i can cut my caffeine intake, i must continue to consume bubbly carbonation with caffeine, because i grow some SERIOUS horns when it’s gone, i know it’s my weakness, i can’t help myself. He is also still allowed a few beers after a rough night if kiddies aren’t here. If all goes well, i get September as well, and so on. We both want to be healthier, i want to lose the last little ‘pooch’ i have from Elijah and he wants to lose some weight as well. On top of all that we both want to be healthy Once A Month Mom will be my main source for all of my recipes as the last time i cooked healthy food was before i moved out here, and I’ve lost most knowledge, i will let you know how all these recipes go for us and which they are as i am finalizing my monthly menu now
I have made a cleaning schedule, that has been “in place” for the past month, however i don’t follow it real well, so i will be following an exact cleaning schedule, and hopefully will be able to contain the mess of the Toddler tornado a bit better, as well as our own personal laundry mountain that accumulates while i sleep ( we have a grimlin that does this in our house, he lives under the stairs, and he makes new laundry all night long.. it’s horrible)
I’ve actually already started this, but I’ve been keeping to my blog schedule as the more i write the better i am beginning to feel. It also keeps me honest, and following my plans a bit better.
Finally, the house:
We want to spend some time, once a week for ourselves as a couple, ourselves as individuals, and one night working on something in the house (DIY for the win)
We have also started (two days in a row now) walking daily with the big gigantic stroller, hopefully we can continue this, as it gives us some time to hang out, and talk and the babies can enjoy the ride. Both of them love it thus far However today we messed up and went at the heat of day, and it was DEADLY!
I know, a totally flipped out-bunch of changes-Alan may kill me for a snickers bar month
I will keep you updated!
I saw this on facebook, and thought this was a very sweet message, it may never make it to Christian Bale, however, if it did, I’d love to know these kids may find a little hope, just for a moment that there are good guys out there.
I sat down at my computer to go through my Google Reader, as it had been a few days since I had time to read through it. I made my way through and ran across this post from Hot Mess Mom.I immediately had to sit down and write. I had no choice; I swear she wrote this post in a letter to me, instead of a post to everyone. There are days that I am only trying to survive, let alone that I can do anything anyone else would call productive. HMM has 3 children, and I only have 2, however I feel as if this is me. Over the course of the last two years I’ve been on ‘auto pilot’. The fun in things is gone, unless seen through the eyes of a 2 year old. My energy is depleted as I hardly remember the definition in that word.
Emilee and I moved to SC to be with my husband in May of last year. We came out for a long vacation, and decided never to go back. (Due to weather, and wanting to be with my at the time, boyfriend) We had a great time; however my husband and I never had the couple time most have. We had wonderful family times, wonderful toddler times, wonderful baby times, but we’ve never had that going out on dates time. I don’t speak of it much; however, Emilee was a month and a half shy of 1 year when Alan and I got together, so we jumped right into having a family. He loves her, she loves him, I love them, however we never had those crazy couple times. And somewhere in the middle of my second pregnancy, I got lost. Admittedly, I’m still lost.
We have a hard time having a normal day to day routine, as my husband has the oddest work schedule in history, and on top of that he switches from days to nights every month (The worst thing in the entire world, BTW). So when he’s home the routine is thrown out the window, so we can have time together.
Most of my day consists of “Mommy” “Sweetheart” and Homemaker (did I mention diaper changer? Yea, that too) however, none of my titles right now include Me. Mom, wife, homemaker, sure, but none of me. . . .
So now I’m to that part I’m supposed to start finding myself, only with potty training under way (Yea, this is the worst thing a parent has to do, and I have had to scrub more pee out of carpets then I would if we had an untrained house dog. Seriously… this child can pee for days.)
This post made me, envious, angry, happy, sad and all around lost. I loved it, I hated it, and I wanted what she discussed at the end. I have decided we need to find a rhythm, which will come with part of the August FLIP OUT that will be happening in our house (keep posted for info on that one). If not I may end up drinking my weight in coffee, which I’m sure isn’t healthy for me at some point?
Her advice for how to do this was simple, in the jest of things:
- Moms: as soon as you are comfortable, take some time off. 15 minutes, an hour, a day… whatever. Take it. Find the time. Make it happen.
- Dads: encourage her to go away.
- Moms: let him handle it. He can. You chose him. You married him. He is the daddy. Don’t criticize. It doesn’t matter if he puts the diaper on wrong. It’s not the end of the world if he feeds the baby Stage 2 food instead of Stage 1. It really doesn’t matter. Let him help you.
- Dads: be patient. She is a mess. She is lost. She will return one day. She will be even better and stronger and more beautiful than before. It’s going to take some time. Don’t forget her. Don’t give up on her. She is worth it. Remember her.
Have you been lost lately? What struggles are you facing? No judgments here at all, as we have all been there, and if we haven’t we just aren’t admitting to it yet…
With some house renovation issues i didn’t get as much reading done as i’d like, but here it is…
Fifty Shades Trilogy, by E. L. James(Finally broke down and read them, I know this is technically 3 books, but i got them done!) When God Whispers Loudly, by Chris Hibbard(This story was AmAzInG! It’s very short, but absolutely inspiring! )
- The Simple Dollar, by Trent A. Hamm (I am currently reading this, so far, awesome! I still have a few chapters left…
- The Cheerleader For Tired Moms, by Lisa-Jo Baker (Gypsy Mama)
- Get Out Of The Kitchen, by Rhonda Grice
- What Your Childhood Memories Say About You… And What You Can Do About It, by Kevin Leman
- The Full Time Parent’s Guide To Earning Extra Income, by Eric Richardson
- Alice in Writerland: A Writers Adventures in the Ugly World of Publishing, by Elisa Hategan
Fifty Shades of Grey (The trilogy)
I heard all the crazy hype over these, and I finally buckled and had to read them. I am guilty of loving these books. No, they aren’t the best writing, they definitely could be a bit more fantasy like, but that is the part i like most about them actually. If someone where to live the lifestyle they do, I’d imagine it wasn’t always hot, crazy, fantasy
sex activities. It’s the author’s version of if a husband and wife wrote about their day-to-day sex lives. For most married couples I know, it wouldn’t be swinging from the rafters barbaric sex all the time. If you can read deeper, past all the random sex here and there, and some of the crazy writing styles in it, you find a beautiful love story of finding ones self through your spouse, which I personally find endearing. That is what I took away from it in the end, Christian goes from what most would call a cold, heartless man to one that loves from the deepest part of himself. Anastasia, his love interest, brings out a completely new person, and in the process finds his hidden demons, ones he didn’t even realize were causing him distress. They love to the crazy, and sometimes insane levels, but in it they find a pure, everlasting feeling. What isn’t to love about that ? I wouldn’t recommend this for a teenager, or child at all, but for a mom like me, yes, read it, in the bath tub and light some candles, some find it smutty, i found it romantic… But, again i’m very odd in how i interpret the things i read.
Overall Rating: 6 1/2
When God Whispers Loudly
This was a short read, as I finished it over the course of a nap, and a night. However, it did not lack content, it was beautiful. It was an amazing story in which you learn a lot. You feel as if you are a path of discovery yourself as you read this one and it makes it hard not to fall in love with the father of this short read. Most short stories i can walk away from and that is it, this one however stays on my mind daily, in all that i do! I would definitely recommend this as a book everyone should read.
*This is a post from Walden Mommy that she kindly let me share with all of you.I started reading this story when it was first published and have been nearly in tears every time i read something new about it. I hope it touches you the same way as this little man is a fighter by every definition of the word*
Meet Baby Sean…
In May of this year, Caroline, a mother of three began experiencing some very intense headaches. She wrote them off until one day her headache was simply too much to bare. Knowing something wasn’t right, Caroline walked into the ER. Several tests later and she found out that she was 26 weeks pregnant and was in a crisis situation due to preeclampsia and gestational diabetes. Caroline was admitted to the hospital where doctors and nurses worked around the clock to keep Caroline and her baby healthy. The goal was to get the baby as close to 36 weeks gestation as possible. However, Caroline’s placenta was so thick that her baby was not developing properly and his life was in jeopardy. On June 10th 2012, Baby Sean was born. He was a mere 1 pound 10 ounces and 27.5 weeks gestation. Although he was amazingly spirited, the doctors simply didn’t know what his prognosis would be.
One month later, Baby Sean is close to 3 pounds, is being tube fed mostly breastmilk, is feisty as all get-out and is fighting all of his health battles with an intensity that rivals anyone’s will to live. This tiny micro-preemie wants to go out and do big things in this world. But he still has a long road, a road with unknown health obstacles. To learn more about Caroline and Baby Sean, please visit the original Baby Sean post.
If you’ve been reading Walden Mommy for awhile, you know that premature babies are near and dear to my heart. In 2008, my third child, George, was born at 35 weeks gestation due to PPROM (pre-term premature rupture of the membranes). Georgie was six pounds, eight ounces, a fantastic weight for his gestational age but his lungs were underdeveloped. He spent several days on a ventilator, then on oxygen through a nasal cannula. Breathing wasn’t his only issue, though. He needed to learn how to suck, swallow and breathe, hold his own temperature, gain weight and get rid of that pesky jaundice. Thankfully, he managed to do most of this during nine days… a short time in the NICU for a premature infant but long enough to make us very aware of the trails that many parents and children go through.
My husband and myself have committed to helping parents of NICU babies and NICU graduates. We bring meals to the NICU, walk in the March for Babies and provide emotional support when it is needed. Of course, Sean’s story touched my heart and I wanted to do something to help. A fundraiser was already in play from a fellow blogger, Hybrid Rasta Mama. (Caroline is a member of her extended family). Currently, $1,300 has been raised to help his family.
However, more is needed. Sean is only one month old and is looking at a couple more months in the NICU. When he comes home, he will need frequent follow ups from doctors and therapists. Many preemies also need special fortifiers and foods to help them grow. Sean also has two big brothers and a sister and their material and emotional needs will still need to be met. All of this adds up!
In light of this, I have offered to do a special Thirty- One Gifts catalog party/fundraiser for the family! To raise money for Sean’s needs, we are asking that you pay full price for the July Special. The difference between the sale price ($5) and the full price ($12-24) will go to Sean! I will also be giving a portion of my commission to his family.
How it works:
- Go to http://www.mythirtyone.com/lauracolon. Click on “View Our Catalog” and take a look around. Please note that the first half of the catalog shows how the items can be used and how the different fonts and colors look on the bags. The last half shows the different items and all the prints they come in. Please note that not every item is available in every print.
- Decide what you want, paying attention to the July Specials on my home page. (For every $31 you spend, you can purchase a Littles Carry All Caddy, Mini Zipper Pouch, Zipper Pouch, Cinch It Up Thermal or Thermal Tote for $5!)
- Go to “My Events” and click on “Fundraiser for Baby Sean.” Follow the instructions and pay the amount indicated by Thirty-One.
- Within 24 hours, you will receive an e-mail from me indicating the difference you can donate to Sean. (Full Price – Sale Price = Amount to Sean) You will need to Pay Pal the amount to the address by the end of the party (July 25, 2012).
But you don’t want to pay the difference? That’s fine, a portion of my pay will still go to Sean! However, you won’t be entered to win the prizes!
Yes, I said prizes! Thirty-One loves to reward their hostesses. For each party, the hostess earns Hostess Credit (ie, free money to use on Thirty-One Products), the chance to purchase Hostess Exclusive Items and items of her choosing at half-price. How much? Well, the bigger the party, the more credit she earns and the more Hostess Exclusive and Half Price Items she can purchase!
For this fundraiser, Sean’s family will receive the Hostess Credit to purchase items they may need for their family- lunch bags, backpacks, purses, a diaper bag and so on. As a thank you to everyone who donates the difference to Sean, you will be entered to win a chance to purchase a Hostess Exclusive Item or purchase an item of your choosing at Half Price.
How many winners will there be? Well, like I said, the bigger the party, the more items the hostess gets… and, in this case, the more winners! Our goal is for a 1,200 dollar party. That means that there will be THREE winners for the Hostess Exclusive Items and those items will be FREE! We would also have THREE winners who could purchase an item at Half-Price. We would have a total of SIX winners! (Please note that for parties under 1,200 dollars, the Hostess Exclusive Items must be purchased for the amount indicated in the catalog.)
Are you ready to SHOP? Head over to my Thirty-One page and get shopping… and help a great family support their new, tiny addition!
Details: The party will run from July 15, 2012 through July 25, 2012. The party will close the evening of July 25. Winners will be drawn via random.org and notified by e-mail. You have 24 hours to respond with the item of your choosing (including print and personalization, if desired) payment or another winner will be chosen. Winners are responsible for payment and taxes on their items. All items purchased through this fundraiser will be shipped directly to your house. The customer is responsible for all taxes and shipping charges. Questions? Please e-mail me at waldenmommy AT gmail DOT com and put “Baby Sean Fundraiser” as the subject.